Recently, I posted on my Instagram asking what were some things you guys wanted to see on my blog and someone said that they would love to know how I felt when I first found out we were going to have Callan and what it is like being a young mom. I thought that was a great question because whenever I find out someone is having a baby or has had a baby, I want to know everything, I love it! So, heres is the story of when we found out we were having Cal…
Me and Dominick started dating early November so it came as a bit of a shock to say the least that we found out only three months later (in March) that our party of two was going to turn into a party of three.
This is probably a like TMI but, I usually didn’t get any sort of cramps or symptoms before my periods but one month I got the worst cramps of my life, my back was killing me and my boobs were so swollen (and if you’ve e ever seen me, you’d know that I really didn’t have boobs haha so it was out of the ordinary)! I personally didn’t think it was because I was pregnant though, I just figured it was my birth control making my hormones all weird since it had been giving me irregular periods before. But Dominick was sure it was because I was pregnant, so I took a test, well many tests when I got home and sure enough, those two little lines showed up and I really was pregnant.
I didn’t really believe it at first and I think I was in a little bit of a shock thinking there no way. I had no idea how I was going to tell Dom or what he was going to say but I had to tell him right away. So, I go to his house and told him the news and we were both just silent for a really long time, then there were tears. We literally didn’t know what to do and for a few days we didn’t really bring it up. In that time we were always very on edge with each other which was totally opposite of what we were usually like together. Maybe about a week or so later, we went to a concert with his family and everyone was having a great time singing and dancing, just like normal. Me and Dom were dancing to the band then somehow the baby got brought up.I knew we had to make a decision soon and I knew I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I didn’t keep her and would always be wondering what if. So, I told him that I decided I was going to keep it, weather he wanted to be part of its life or not, and he said, “okay let do this, lets have this baby!”
I was actually kind of shocked that he said that but was so relieved that I wasn’t going to be alone in this journey. It was like a huge weight was lifted off our backs and we felt we were making the right decision. From that point on, we were back to our happy couple self and constantly supporting one another, united as a team through everything. Although, Dom being away at school for most of my pregnancy, it made things hard to have him gone but we both grew more and more excited to to meet our little girl.
On November 26, 2014, our beautiful daughter became earth side and our love for her makes our heart just explode! I honestly can’t even begin to describe how much we both love her and are so unbelievably happy about our decision to have her. Dominick continuously raises the bar for dads everywhere and surpasses any expectation I had for him as a father. I couldn’t imagine living this crazy life with anyone but him. We may have started our family sooner than we both thought and although it gets really damn hard sometimes, I wouldn’t change it for the world.
A lot of people ask how it is being a young mom and I’m sure some people expect me to say that it’s really hard and think I’m missing out on a lot of fun I could be having in my twenties, and sure I can’t always go out with my friends on the weekends or whatever but I love being a mom and I’m loving every minute of it, the good the bad and the ugly. I know I became a mom at a younger age then I expected, but I would way rather be a young mom then have to worry if I’m getting too old to have kids, stressing about my biological clock ticking. And let’s face it, motherhood is exhausting no matter how old you are, but I’m in my twenties and I have a lot more energy to play and be active with my little babe, its really so much fun watching her get excited over all the little things! And sure, it did change my career plans but it in no may ruined them. In fact, having her showed me what I really did want to do and has motivated me to go for my dreams. I want to show Callan that you don’t have to settle for a job that you hate and that if you work hard, you can make your dreams come true and love what you do! Also,having a baby at a younger age lowers your risk or complications during pregnancy and birth, plus not to mention, as a bonus you’ll get your body back faster! Which, isn’t a reason to have a baby, but in all honesty, there is no perfect time to have a baby. Some people are waiting for just the right time…until they get a better job or a bigger house or whatever the heck it is, but life doesn’t happen like that. It throws you curve balls and you just kind of have to go with it even if its not in your plan. Who knows, it could change your life for the better like it did mine!
*P.S. For those who think I was a teenager when I had Callan and that I’m a teen mom now, I was in my twenties when I had her. Just wanted to clear that up!*